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Incorporating Core Values into Your Content

Incorporating Core Values into Your Content

[0:00] When you think back to your childhood, were there topics that were taboo in your family? Today’s guest, Judy Tsuei, is someone who helps other people dive into some of these taboo topics. We’re going to talk about maybe how we can start to lean in, pay attention, and really uncover these stories and move on from them. 

 

[1:16] About Judy Tsuei

 

[2:26] Judy’s path to discovering Human Design and living as a Generator.

 

[4:01] Yong’s Human Design discovery and being a Projector as an impatient person.

 

[4:50] How discovering her Human Design gave Judy “permission” to be exactly who and how liberating it was for her. 

 

[5:30] Raising a Generator daughter and the energy it creates

 

[7:37] A good place to start to kind of assess maybe some of the topics that we learned growing up that were more taboo for us.

 

[9:36] “It’s so easy to compare our insides based on someone else’s outside, that’s what social media does so well.” 

 

[10:19] What being a yoga teacher and a Reiki practitioner helped Judy learn.

 

[11:09] How holding onto guilt and shame was a normal part of growing up for Yong

 

[13:57] How to dig deeper into emotional vulnerability and start to let people in through our journey.

 

[18:16] Breaking down in art therapy helped Judy make a breakthrough.

 

[18:48] Just because something worked one time does not mean that it will work the next time you try it. 

 

[21:02] Embracing compassion even when it’s outside of cultural norms

 

“It’s hard to take expectations from one set of cultures to put that lens on someone else”. 

 

[22:28] Judy’s 2-minute exercise and the mindfulness practices she offers on her podcast, F*ck Saving Face, every Friday

 

“On the other side of that challenge is a different person that can walk out of the room than walk in that room.” – Yong

 

[25:14] “Play is processing.”

 

[27:05] Judy’s favorite way to create content

 

[28:17] Judy’s journey of hiring junior copywriters and adding in a mentorship component to uplift other people and help them come up in their careers and their goals. 

 

[30:56] How to give ourselves permission to talk about what we want to talk about and stay true to who we are.

 

[33:22] “Content is about creating those meaningful connections.” 

 

[34:23] The practice of keeping yourself elevated and authentic and leaning into growing edges.

 

[35:18] Becoming a responsible content creator. 

 

[37:53] “If you’re ever in question of what it is that you’re posting, go back to your core values.”

 

[39:22] Connect with Judy

 

Website: https://www.fcksavingface.com/ 

Podcast: https://www.fcksavingface.com/podcast

Website: www.WildHeartedWords.com

 

[40:59] Come share your biggest takeaways from today’s episode inside the Arena of Awesome.

 

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Yong Pratt 0:00
When you think back to your childhood, were there topics that were taboo in your family? I know for me growing up in a biracial household, there were so many topics that we just didn't talk about. We either ignored them or we, we just, you know, didn't face them head on. So I'm excited to bring you today's guest because she's someone who helps other people dive into some of these taboo topics. And we're going to talk about maybe how we can start to lean in, pay attention, and really uncover these stories and move on from them.

Yong Pratt 0:34
Have you ever felt like there was something missing in your business, something holding you back from the success you're seeking? If so, you are not alone? For nearly 20 years, that's exactly how I felt as a business owner. It wasn't until I discovered Human Design, that it all became clear. And it turns out that I was the missing piece in my own business. Join me on this journey of discovering the real me and hear stories from other business owners, building businesses around all of their awesomeness. I'm Yong Pratt, and it's time my friend to Amplify Your Awesome™.

Yong Pratt 1:16
Hey there, everyone. Welcome back to the podcast. I'm Yong Pratt, your host and Expert Content Gold Mining Guide. And today, I am really thrilled to bring you another guest. She is someone that we connected years ago in a mastermind. I've been watching her silently on places like Facebook, seeing the awesome things that she's doing than many pivots that she's had. So I'm excited to bring her on today. Today's guest is Judy Tsuei and she is known for building real engagement through powerful content creation as a forward facing a brand voice representative. She's a Simon and Schuster author, and has been a guest on numerous top rated iTunes podcasts, as well as featured in Fast Company, BBC travel, mind body green, and so many more. Her popular podcast fluxing face empowers mental and emotional health for Asian Americans by breaking through taboo topics. This is gonna be a juicy one, Judy, welcome to the show.

Judy Tsuei 2:14
Thank you so much for having me. It's been so fun to watch your journey as well. And every time I get your emails in my inbox, I celebrate what it is that you're doing. Because we did meet so many years ago, and there have been so many life stages that have happened since then.

Yong Pratt 2:26
Oh, my gosh, yeah, I know, I just have my oldest just graduated from high school. So I mean, it's just all these big milestones. And, and I always celebrate yours as well, when I, whenever I see your your thing pop up in my newsfeed or I get your emails like, Oh, I can't believe she's doing this now. So I'm always just amazed. And I know, when we were connecting to this podcast, you also share that you're a big fan of human design. So I want to start there and talk about what is your human design because I love sharing the people that there's so many ways to create a business and create content. So let's talk about human design. What are you?

Judy Tsuei 3:03
I'm a generator. And what's funny is that when I first discovered that so the Asian-ness, which is part of what the podcast is about, I had so much judgment. I'm like, wait, that's it, I'm just a generator, like I'm not one of them, like special projectors or you know, anything that's like a little bit more rare. I want it to be like a plus. But then, the first time I discovered Human Design. I was living in Hawaii at the time. And I never heard about this before. And so I was invited to this kind of group gathering where they were learning about human design, but they would also, you know, choose someone and put their chart up and just kind of like read about, you know who they were. And so as I'm having this teacher, his name is Genoa read to me or just share with me about kind of like the way that I'm, I've been programmed all of my life just the way I was innately born and like, you know, things that have happened in my life, I started laughing out loud, because I was like, how do you know about my life entirely based on this random complex chart that you're looking at right here right now?

Yong Pratt 4:01
Yeah, I had the same experience and, and I found it through a local friend, actually. She had interviewed someone for her podcast introduced me to this to this mentor of mine. And yeah, learning these things. It really was like someone had had lived through the story of my life and opened up a random page and could tell me exactly, you know, certain things in my life. And I thought, whoa, like this magical window into this alternate universe was opened up and, and so I'm a projector. So when I learned that, I think I was kind of disappointed to because I was like, I have to wait. Why do I have to? I am not good at waiting. I am not a very patient person. And so if you're taking along a lot of deconditioning, and a lot of relearning and knowing that it's okay in this space where I get to wait, I get to create, which is the best part of what I get to do.

Judy Tsuei 4:50
I love that and it felt like you know, as you were describing, it just felt like I was just suddenly given permission to be exactly who I was. supposed to be and it felt very liberating. So for anybody who hasn't done their human design, I think it's a fascinating art, and science. And you know, it blends all of that I actually interviewed someone on my podcast who's a Human Design expert. And so the people, the listeners reached out to me to say, like, I loved hearing that interview, I love discovering, like, Oh my gosh, I can kind of get this guidebook to how I am and how I could better thrive in life with less hustle and more flow. But it's definitely a practice for sure.

Yong Pratt 5:30
Yeah, cuz it's so easy to fall back into the old habits, the way we were conditioned. And in your life being a generator. I'm married to a generator, so I see it play out. And you know, I have one one daughter, who is a manifesting generator, and another who's a projector like me. However, she has very different strengths in her projectors. So it's been interesting to sort of uncover and learn more about the people in my life and how I can then better stand up and serve them and ask them questions or engage with them. By understanding what they need from me like then the dynamic of that interchange, has really, really been beneficial for me in my life. And so I'm sure you, you have dealt with that as well. Because what is your daughter?

Judy Tsuei 6:11
She is she's also a generator. So yeah, we live

Yong Pratt 6:13
Oh a lot of energy in that household.

Judy Tsuei 6:14
Oh, yeah. What's funny, though, is I was mentioning to you that you know, currently, as we're filming this, I'm at my partner's house. And he also has two kids. And one of them came over to me yesterday, and she was like, she had a little horse on the back of her journal. So I said, Oh, you know, that's while their zodiac sign. She's like, Oh, well, then what's mine? So we went online, and we looked at it, and I was like, wait a minute. Wait, you're a horse, but you're a year older than my daughter. And so I was like, wait, have I been getting my daughter's zodiac sign wrong this whole time? Because I thought she was born three cycles after me. And we were both born in the year of the horse. So I'm still waiting for the verdict from my mom. Just see like what she is. But when it comes to like energy in that household? Yeah, for sure. We have a lot of strong personalities.

Yong Pratt 6:58
Yes, yeah. Which, which just makes it more fun. And yeah, just just takes gives us more evidence of who we were designed to be. And who are the people that we create in this world are designed to be and how we can guide them to discover their awesomeness, because so often, and this leads us to today's topic is this whole idea of taboo topics, things you just don't talk about, because they're either politically charged or emotionally charged. There's just something about them we don't talk about. So my question for you is, we think about these taboo topics, what is a good place to start to kind of assess maybe some of the topics that we learned growing up that were more taboo for us?

Judy Tsuei 7:37
Yeah, that's such a great question. I think that what I realized throughout this journey is I hadn't up until maybe, like five years ago, even start to look at what my core values are, I kind of just like live my life based on the success metrics that were set for me. And a lot of that was financial, you know, like, you better achieve a financial amount of success to be deemed worthy, or you know, that you've made it somehow. And so I started to look at my core values, because my life has always been built so differently, you know, I've lived and I think I counted this recently in over 26 cities and over like six countries, you know, in over like 10 states, and my daughter has come with me on a lot of those journeys, you know, she was born on Guam. We lived in a camper van. We ended up in Austin, then we moved to Asia, and then came back to California. So it's been a whole journey. And it's been hard to kind of figure out that I was built differently, as we touched upon, you know, at the start of the interview, and yet, the old programming is so strong of like, you know, you better if I interviewed a guest who said, Oh, you were supposed to be a doctor or lawyer, or if your parents were really progressive, and engineer, and it was definitely like, you know, how do I create my own model of what's important?

Judy Tsuei 8:50
So I think looking at your core values, and so one of my core values is freedom. And it's time freedom and location, independence and other core value is connection. That's so important to me. And so, you know, when I look at my life, I'm very rich and abundant in those spaces, and I've had other moms reach out to me just saying, like, how do you do that? How do you create community, wherever it is that you go. And then also just being able to have experiences, you know, like memories that are worth telling stories about since I'm a storyteller. And so I think you start with the core values and really assessing that. I think, also understanding when it comes to taboo topics, where do you hold a lot of guilt and shame? And if you're feeling those feelings, like what is it around? You know, I think that that's a great indicator to see like, what am I not supposed to talk about.

Judy Tsuei 9:36
Where do I feel like, you know, I'm not living up to what it is that I'm supposed to be living up to? And I think it's so easy to compare our insides based on someone else's outside, that's what social media does so well. Yes. And so it's hard to think that other people are also going to those states of vulnerability or that also, you know, other people are feeling challenged or struggling, and it's not until You open up and you start to have these honest, authentic conversations that you start to realize, like, Oh, wait, other people are going through this too. So then I don't have to feel that shame in not seeing that. And secondly, when you open up like that, I feel like it automatically creates a deeper connection with the person that you are talking to. I used to be a yoga teacher and a Reiki practitioner.

Judy Tsuei 10:19
And one of the things that I learned along that way was, when you meet someone for the first time, what you're seeking within them is their vulnerability. And it's not to, you know, try to attack or like, you know, understand what their soft points or weak areas are, it's because that vulnerability is what helps us feel safe enough to connect. And so if we're willing to share our vulnerability with them, then they're also willing to do that. And, you know, I can't even count how many times people around me have remarked, like, that stranger just totally opened up to you about their lives, or like, I've never shared this with anyone before. So like, I don't know why I'm sharing it with you. And so, I think that if we're willing to lean into that, and just, you know, reflect and be okay, with being imperfect, which is definitely not like an Asian, no, no, no, then I think that that's how we form those connections and that community.

Yong Pratt 11:09
So good. And this idea of holding on to this guilt and shame. That was a big part of growing up, you know, with with an Asian mom, that was just a huge, like, you just are made to feel guilty about certain things that if you don't achieve certain milestones, so your parents can show or tell your story and show up show you off to people around you. But that's not that's not a good thing. You know, we don't ever want to be standing out. That was another thing I learned like you Indian, which, which I think is so funny now, because for a long time, I was the only half Asian kid in my town with red hair and green eyes and freckles, like how do I not stand out right? amongst a lot of Caucasian people, amongst a lot of people from Mexico, I definitely did not fit in.

Yong Pratt 11:49
But in my culture, that was a thing, like you just, you just stick to your own path, you don't veer off of it, you don't want to cause embarrassment, you don't want to be looked upon, even though there's this expectation of achieving these things that may not be aligned with your values. And I remember, when I went to college, I wanted to go to medical school. And I quickly learned in my first semester, and I worked, I went to go work in a hospital, I took those classes. And I just thought you, I do not want to be doing this because my idea of what that profession looked like, through the eyes of my culture, were very, very different than what they actually turned out to be so. And I stopped with that path for a long time, because there was that guilt and shame of letting other people down. So the day that I graduated from college and decided to leave, pack up my suitcase and go travel the world and perform for a year, I honestly felt my parents were going to fall over. Because they were thinking, no way like you went and you did all the schooling, or you're just gonna waste it. You know, we don't do that you did this thing.

Yong Pratt 12:51
So yeah, so it's taken a lot of years to decompress from that. And I love my parents dearly. And they were doing the best from what they had learned. So it's just been a big learning process. And the human design element has helped me understand why some of those events may have occurred and unfolded in a way that they did versus doing something different. And I just needed to carve this own path. So yes, again, if you're listening, and you're feeling guilt, or shame, yes, start there. Because for me, that's kind of where I had to start. Because there were these just these, these blinking lights, like I knew what they were. And because I didn't, I wasn't equipped with how to emotionally deal with them. It's taken me a long time to unpack that. So let's talk about the emotions behind this because that's a whole different layer. Once we've discovered our core values, once we figure out those places where you might feel shame or guilt, how do we unpack the emotions? Because I think there's so many walls that everyone is taught to put up? How do we dig a little deeper into the emotional vulnerability, and start to let people in through our journey?

Judy Tsuei 13:57
I love that I think that, um, one of the things that I learned when I was in therapy, so I had an eating disorder that I battled for the better part of 15 years, and just really had to uncover a lot of just repressed anger to, you know, the eating disorder of choice, quote, unquote, that I had was pollinia. And it's a very violent like self attacking kind of eating disorder, because you're like, bingeing and you're purging and just really like pushing your limits and boundaries. And so I realized that I just had a lot of this, a lot of emotions that were stored up that I didn't know what to do with. And now that I have a daughter, I think, you know, especially in the schooling that she has, which really focuses on social emotional learning. I can see how valuable it is to start creating those tools from an early age. But that doesn't mean that you can't, you know, not learn them.

Judy Tsuei 14:43
So when I was in therapy, I was offered this feelings chart, and at the top is the predominant emotion. So there were like, you know, six to eight, like main emotions, and then underneath that all the gradients that you could feel and I looked at this sheet of paper, and I thought, Wait, what, you can feel all of these feelings. What do you mean? Like all I knew were like, maybe two of the top ones. And like that was it. And so starting to become aware that we can have all these gradients of emotions. And then the other thing that I learned in therapy is that feelings are not linear. And they don't always make sense. So they can pop up whenever in the middle of some other activity that has nothing to do with what it is that you're going through right now, it's kind of like when I was teaching yoga to, you know, anytime that we would do a class with a lot of hip openers, a lot of our emotions get stuck in our hips. And so once we open that up, I would often see an emotional response from people because we're also holding those emotions in our bodies, which is, again, why I think mindful movement and just movement in general, especially out in nature, if you can be outside is so helpful, you're processing through it in a different way.

Judy Tsuei 15:45
And I was just listening to a podcast interview with one of the guests who I'm bringing on who's going to be talking about ketamine, as like a mental emotional support therapy modality. And he was saying, like, when he was working in the ER, he had to put up walls because of the trauma that he saw day in and day out. And you don't even have time to move from delivering like terrible news to one family before you have to go address another one. And so he also had to go, you know, through his own journey of figuring out how to reconcile that. And so his journey took him through, you know, shamanic work, it took him through a lot of coaching courses, a lot of different things. So I think that also demonstrates that each of us is so individual and what it is that we need, so to go explore different modalities of what speaking to you right now, and maybe also what's at your growing edge and see, you know, what can you start to pursue that might be really helpful and you connecting to what it is that you specifically need. So some people are really into EMDR, you know, hypnotherapy or energy healing, or whatever it is, and it could totally look off the wall. I think this goes back to it doesn't need to be accepted by anybody else, because nobody else is living your life. I've been doing all these like peloton hit workouts, the coaches are great. And one of them says like, no one's gonna work out your tissue other than you. And so it's like such a good reminder of like, Yes, that is true. Like, I need to be the one who's gonna be responsible for this.

Judy Tsuei 17:03
So I think that, you know, figuring out, like, how can you express these feelings in ways that feel safe, because initially, it's probably not going to feel safe, it's probably gonna feel very terrifying. And even in the current relationship that I'm in, I've had to really practice over and over again, of how to find that safe and secure place. And thankfully, my partner has been remarkable in that and super communicative. And, but I can see that my pattern is to regress and hide and then just be like, I don't need anybody, I'm not going to rely on anybody, I don't need anything. And so you know, starting to understand yourself really well, that quote, Know thyself, which by the way, I'm obsessed with the show Ted lasso. So if anybody's watched it, he like says that line in the show, and he's like, Know thyself in this moment, that's like a joke, but it's true. So knowing yourself, and then allowing yourself giving yourself permission to explore whatever it is, for me, one of the best way that I've ever found to express my feelings is through art therapy. And keep in mind, I cannot draw at all like, I can draw a stick figure, maybe. But I can definitely collage and I can definitely bring a lot of materials together to make something.

Judy Tsuei 18:16
And it was through art therapy that I actually had, you know, a break down to have a break through, like, I started crying, I am not one of those people who cry in public. It is rare that I still, like cry, have to watch a sad movie in order for me to access this emotion sometimes, but again, that's what I need. That's how I do it. And then you grow and evolve from there. And, you know, I always try to remind myself that what works one time, may not work the next time, but that's why we keep learning and growing. So we can figure out like, okay, so where, what are the tools that I can rely upon in that moment.

Yong Pratt 18:48
And so many things that you share in this process, as I'm listening, there are so many parallels to what we need to uncover in our lives that translate into our business are the things that we're holding back on ourselves in our businesses. I know I've done that, too. Again, this this fear of not wanting to stand out, like that was just a core identity I had growing up and how do I now unlearn that, and I love that you talk about different modalities. And because it worked one time does not mean that will work the next time you try it.

Yong Pratt 19:17
So I think we're hard on ourselves in so many different ways. But especially when it comes to uncovering the emotions, uncovering these old stories, discovering these patterns we have in our lives, there has to be so much openness, and so much fluidity. I feel and we have to let go of so many things. And I think this is why many of us don't go down this route. willingly because there's just these big messes we don't really want to deal with against we dealt with them once or we thought we did. But like you said, we're often repressing them in our body. So the idea of getting out in nature and using movement mindfully, not in any sort of structured way. If you want it to be structured, awesome, do that. But for most of us, using movement, to be that space where we can let go of other things, that's such a beautiful idea for us all to really consider today. So if you're listening, and you're, you're outside, or you're inside, you're inside, I want you to go outside and just take in that air and move.

Yong Pratt 20:20
However, it feels good for you just whether that's blowing in the breeze or standing on one foot or stretching to your side, we got a new puppy recently, and I'm always in awe that he's always stretching. And I think there's so many things that we forget that we forget to stretch, just like we forget to breathe when we're anxious. And we have to consciously remind ourselves that God has given us so many wonderful practices to go and do, but movement I feel is kind of at the core, if we can get our bodies involved our minds, I feel for me anyway, my mind is usually a little more willing to be open and to give up things and to feel things when my body is involved in that.

Judy Tsuei 21:02
Yeah, and I wanted to point out, you said, like, you know, it is a practice the emotions that are going to come up or just this practice of life. I think when I used to teach yoga a lot, too, I'd say like, this is a practice and the practice isn't what's happening in the four corners of your yoga mat. When I was in therapy, it was not in the four corners of the Office of the therapist room. It's out in the world, like that is the practice. And so there, that's been really challenging. And even just this last weekend, I had these like experiences with my parents who again, I have learned to have much more compassion. And it's been a challenge to be raised in a culture that's completely the antithesis of the culture that they were raised in, you know, so they're like, born in China, fled to Taiwan, they grew up in Taiwan, then they came to the States, but I grew up in the States. And I've actually gone back to both of those countries. And so a lot of the values are diametrically opposed. And it's hard to take expectations from one set of culture to put that lens on someone else.

Judy Tsuei 21:57
And so you know, even now, I was like, I am about to turn 43. How is this still happening to me? How am I still being triggered? And it goes back to the idea of a practice. And I think what you said that suggestion of going outside and just like tuning in, to feel what it feels like and ask and connecting and asking your body what it is that it needs. I don't know how often we give ourselves permission to do that. And to be able to do it in a way where you're not judging it like, Oh, well, you know, this is such a loopy kind of movement that I want to do. How can I do this.

Judy Tsuei 22:28
So oftentimes, when I was teaching yoga, I would also encourage people to take like two minutes in class, close your eyes, so you're not paying attention to what anybody else is doing. No one's paying attention to you. And just truly move with that kind of intuitive sense of what's going to feel good. On Fridays, on my podcast, I offer mindfulness practices. And one of the recent episodes was dying bug pose, which when I discovered it, I thought it was hilarious, because it totally forced me to like break through what I thought yoga was supposed to be or the seriousness of life. And you basically just lie on your back and stick your arm straight up into the sky, your leg straight up into the sky, like your reverse, you know, upside down or your U shape. And then you take a deep breath in, and then as you exhale, you just shake everything out all your arms and your limbs or whatever. So you're a dying bug. And then you just plop onto the ground. And it was such a playful moment. And so if you were also raised like me, where play was not necessarily something that was very much encouraged, you were serious, you had to achieve certain academic goals, or you know, family responsibilities, whatever it was, I think being able to infuse play into your life, however, that's gonna look small or big is super important. I just had three people recommend to me they're like, have you been in the ocean lately? Because I surf and I was like, No, I haven't. Like, yeah, maybe you should go get some vitamin C, like SEA. So yeah,

Yong Pratt 23:53
Yeah, absolutely. The idea of play. I also didn't have that growing up. I mean, I reached a certain age and, you know, the, the nighttime hugs went away, because I was too old. And going out to play was not something that it was ever encouraged. And I recently interviewed Jeff Harry, who was a play expert on the podcast. Yeah, we did a two part series on play. And he gave so many different ideas. And I was like, that's play, I had no idea because I had never been exposed to that or really explored that I just thought, again, conditioning. Play is for kids, adults don't play. So giving myself some space and some freedom to do things that are more playful like this, you know, I got to go try this dying bug pose. I don't know that I've ever actually done this. But, you know, it reminds me to when I was teaching choreography and dance classes. I love the improvisation classes the best because people could interpret them in so many different ways. And I thought that was so beautiful. Nobody was putting up guidelines. So if you're listening, go find a yoga class. Go find a playful yoga class, go find an improvisational dance class where you can just there's no new rules and I think as adults Going through spaces where there are no rules. It's really challenging. However, on the other side of that challenge is a different person that can walk out of the room than walk in that room.

Judy Tsuei 25:14
Oh, my God, I love that. Yeah, I mean, I feel like play is processing. And if we give ourselves it's what, as a parent, I've learned from my daughter that one of the essential ways she needs to, you know, process through the emotions and the experiences that she has is to be able to play to be physical to get out there. And recently, one of the fellow moms that I know created a group text message, it's adult summer camp, because we're constantly focused on our kids, bringing them to jujitsu classes, skateboarding classes, foreign camp, like whatever it is, and then they're having the greatest time. And then we're just running around like China, like, keep up with them. And so then we were like, wait, wait, wait, hold on a second. I think the parents need like a summer camp too. So now we've, you know, built in surf we've built in yoga classes we've built in, like, you know, working out like whatever it is that we adults also yet a little bit of fun.

Yong Pratt 26:03
What a great idea! That is, I think we need to mass market that to have adult summer camp because yeah, how often do adults just gets it play and, and, and relate to one another on a completely different level? Because a lot of times when you meet other adults is kind of like the surface thing. And like you said, you have the ability to get people to share their stories really quickly with you. Do you have a line for in your chart? Um, oh, yes, I do. Yeah. Do I ask Do I. So yeah, that idea to connect and really easily connect to people. You know, it's one of our gifts. And I love that. So I want to shift the conversation a little bit, I could talk about these topics all day long, I do want to talk about content, because that's such a big part of our business, the idea of creating content for other people to enjoy other people to learn from, to move them closer and bring them into our, to our spheres, so that we can really help them achieve their goals. So my question is to you, what is your favorite way to create content?

Judy Tsuei 27:05
Hmm, I love this. I love it. Because I think that, you know, we've been told, like, structure out your content, plan it all out, like all that kind of stuff, which I think is very beneficial. And I think that there are, it's suitable for certain personality types, or certain business ventures and you know, things like that. I've also realized that just as much as we're learning the rules, or whatever best practices for business, you really got to adopt it for yourself, and like your business and your audience. And that's also been just kind of a journey for me to learn, like, you know, I would love to say that I have it all mapped out to make my life easier.

Judy Tsuei 27:40
But the most powerful content that I created from outliving life, taking a moment to process what's going on, and then being able to share it. Because I'm a generator. You know, for me, content just comes through really, really quickly. It's one of the pieces of feedback that I get all the time, which is like, how do you generate that content? And I was like, how do you not because I feel like when I don't it's a it's a big challenge for me, I feel really like bottled up. But I've had to learn, you know, to, even though that that might be the case that that sparks inspiration. And that's where my most powerful content comes from. Okay, that's great, and how can I still repurpose it work smarter.

Judy Tsuei 28:17
So take some of those tools and techniques and apply it to the way that I'm built. So part of it has been for me recently, you know, building a team around me so hiring an assistant than hiring a few Junior copywriters, and starting to also use that kind of mentorship component that I always look to. And I feel like teaching is such an innate part of what it is that I do that I want to help uplift other people and help them come up in their careers and their goals and whatever it is. And so that has also been just like a really interesting kind of pivot of learning, like, okay, so I can still access and grow and build the content, but maybe I also don't have to be the only point person for it, maybe I can also start to train other people who can, you know, write similarly or who can, you know, bring their viewpoints forward in a way that aligns with my brand and my voice. And so that's been a very interesting journey, too.

Yong Pratt 29:14
This idea of mentorship is really interesting to me because I like you, I find that I'm a teacher, by my very nature. So I've never really thought about that when you bring people onto your team, you become this mentor for them whether or not we know that the idea that there's this exchange of energy, this exchange of knowledge and it can go both directions I think is really sort of a key piece of that so and I love it too that you could you could actually get your team to go source ideas for you right they could go meet they could go to your ears and social media, they could be your eyes watching videos. I just I love that idea.

Yong Pratt 29:49
So the idea that you said that you get a lot of inspiration on the fly doing that cuz I know that society or gurus tell us you need to batch content for Six months. And it sounds really awesome in theory. But then six months later, when you're a different person and your content is still coming out, to me, that feels a little bit disingenuous. I'm just not Yeah, like who I am in that moment. So I don't, I used to have a year of content planned out ahead. I used to be really, really good at that. But any more like, you know, what, if I can be a couple of weeks ahead, that's good enough for me, because then I have the ability to, to mold and move and pivot if I need to, up in that space. So thank you for sharing that. So I want to ask you to how do you make sure that your core values your authentic self is being translated in your content? Because again, there's that conditioning that comes up and says, Wait, that's a topic we're just not going to talk about where we talk about it, it's only going to be surface level? How do we give ourselves permission to really talk about what we want to talk about and stay true to who we are.

Judy Tsuei 30:56
So we're currently working on a memoir, and the book coach that I've been working with has told me, you know, you have to first think about your muse, which I think if you translate it into business, it's who your target audiences and who you're speaking to. But, you know, secondly, making sure that as you're creating this content, and being very vulnerable, and deep and honest, because the memoir, you know, it's a prescriptive memoir, so it's taking stories and experiences that I've had, and then sharing the lessons that I've learned along the way through them. But also making sure that I'm not re traumatizing myself, nor my traumatizing my reader by sharing this information. So I think that making sure that healing, and you know, whatever the growth opportunity is, like you being a responsible leader in that, and you making sure that it's not like, you have to package it perfectly, I'm not saying like, you have to, like, put this content out. And it's got to be pretty wrapped in a bow and like you already know, the conclusion, because that's not how life works. And I think that part of what I'm hoping to do is by being open and transparent, that we break through, like what social media can create.

Judy Tsuei 31:58
So instead starting to see like someone's humanity, and at the same time, you know, not making it someone else's problem, like, we're not going on there to complain about our lives. But instead, we're going on there to like, you know, share our process of how we're moving through this, and then what we're learning or, you know, where you still have questions, and then just making sure that you're being a responsible creator in that way. I think that that is very important. And I think that also, you know, I think one of my key superpowers has always been to the very authentic like, you would, I would always joke, like, you would see it on my face, if I was not happy, I don't have the ability to like, hide that. Even though I, you know, was trained, and I learned it, but then I realized, like, my inherent nature is to not do that, I will just get very quiet. So I won't like, you know, be talking shit, excuse the expletives. You had to say it at the beginning of the show, too. I was like, Oh, my gosh, that's right, like my podcast has an expletive in it. But, um, at the same time, you know, just, I think that just from my own personal experience of the more that you like, just peel back the curtain a little bit and let people see like that you are a real human being in personal settings, and in professional settings, I feel like that's never put me down a wrong path. In fact, it's really been such a benefit and an advantage.

Judy Tsuei 33:22
Because, again, you're creating those meaningful connections. So I have people who've been following my newsletter for years, so I've never met, I have people who've been, you know, in my facebook group, or like on social media, and just sending me these really personal messages, about their lives. And I think that that's such an honor and a gift that someone feels that safe and trusting of me, considering we've never met in person, you know, like, and it's only through the power of my words and the content that I put out there. But even when I used to publish a lot for like my degree, and and all these other platforms, I'd have readers reaching out to me too, and I would always remind myself, too, that for every person who's reaching out to you, there's so many other people who feel the same way. But they just didn't take the time or the energy to send you that message. But if you get one of those, like positive, affirming, you know, pieces from someone, I put it up on a praise wall, I like, print it out, I stick it up. Because being an entrepreneur can be very lonely, especially if you're doing the type of work where you're supporting other people and empowering other people. You know, you can definitely have doubts that imposter syndrome and everything else can come through.

Judy Tsuei 34:23
So what can you do as a practice to like keep yourself elevated? So yeah, when it comes to like being authentic, like, whatever your growing edges, this is also another reminder is, someone told me before that, and this was years and years ago that whatever you publish is going to live forever on the internet somewhere. I mean, just imagine those people who've like broken up with other people and then trying to get all your Facebook images off or like what it's like, it's a bear. So even though we're writing to our consciousness right now, and of course, we're going to grow and evolve as a person source. And our ideas might change. And my friend was just quoting this religious leader that she follows. And she said that this person had gone from like a very devout person in the faith to being a complete polar opposite. And so, you know, I think Glenn and Doyle does a lot of that same stuff, too. She shares with you where she was where she is now.

Judy Tsuei 35:18
But just to be responsible in terms of how can I be at my growing edge when I'm creating this content? And how can I be responsible for like, you know, how I feel now I'm being really authentic and true. And just also knowing and having that compassion and that grace that in the future, you might have a different viewpoint? Are you going to be okay with that, like, you know, my neighbor always says, like spacing, Grace, spacing, Grace. And then I'm going to curse one more time. But when I was living in Koi, I met this girl who, you know, she's a yoga teacher, and we were talking, she was on my first friends. And at dinner one night, she said, I mean, don't future fuck yourself. And I was like, Ah, that's a really good way to put it. Like, we're not living, you know, and hopefully not like so much that you're anticipating the future and like trying to, and avoiding being present. But also just being cognizant, like, there is a future self out there of you. Like, yes, you know, how do you want to feel, then?

Yong Pratt 36:16
Yeah, and the term you use be a responsible creator, I think that's a really just a good reminder. Maybe we need to put that word up on our wall too, just to remind us that, yes, we want to share, but I've seen people take it too far to where when you read their posts, or you see him on video, I sometimes get triggered by them, because they're showing too much. Is it just too revealing? And I know that I've personally struggled with, how much do I share? Like, how much do I want to put out there Am I going to feel like this later, because I know in my business life, I've taken so many pivots and and while I still 100%, believe in everything I've ever created. But thinking about that future you and is that message you're sharing right now, going to number one, put you in a good light in the light that you want to be seen in, versus something that could be triggering to someone and we can definitely all be triggering to other people. I'm not saying never do that, or Judy's not saying never do that by any means.

Yong Pratt 37:11
Just be responsible and, and take ownership of what you are creating. And by doing that, taking ownership and thinking about that muse, that target audience, those two things combined are a really powerful formula for all of us to take from this day forward and think about, okay, what I'm creating, here's a space I want to create from because it's so easy just just to create in the moment, because we feel like we have to versus being really present and sharing authentically, and sharing the journey that we are going through in a way that's going to really benefit or showcase something that we truly believe in.

Judy Tsuei 37:53
Yeah, and if you need a check and balance, go back to the core values that we talked about at the very beginning. And I have different core values for like, my personal life, my relationship life, and then my professional life. And I mean, there's some overlap. But you know, there are different priorities too, for like, which core values are most meaningful in this phase of my life in this particular experience, or whatnot? So if you're ever in question of like, what it is that your posting, you know, going back to the core values of why you're doing what it is that you're doing, like does it fit? Is it in line with all those things? And there are definitely times where, like, I've had other people read my writing before I publish it just to make sure. Before I recorded a podcast episode, you know, things like that. So I do have those checks and balances in place, just to be sure when I have a question.

Yong Pratt 38:39
That's a good point to having someone on our team or someone in our tribe that we can call upon and say, does this resonate? Does it sound like me? Am I staying true and authentic to who I am? Because sometimes without those checks and balances, we can go a little bit outside of what our core values would say, Judy, I could really continue to you for so long, we could talk for hours and hours, I am sure. I do want to make sure that we're being conscientious of time. And I want to have your social media be a demonstration of how you put your core values into action. So where is the best place on social media, we're on the on the internet, that people can come see you putting your core values and your authentic self into action.

Judy Tsuei 39:22
I love that. So there's two different you know, kind of ventures, the wild hearted words is where I've done a lot of strategic content marketing with all of my clients, and so on Instagram, it's kind of also where I've used it as just a personal space to kind of share my journey into everything from motherhood, entrepreneurship, to relationship to whatever it is. So that's like a very authentic kind of view of me. And then in the F*ck Saving Face Podcast. There's a corollary website as well. It's fun, they'll be you. But I published episodes three times a week. So the first day Monday is going to be a personal essay so you can really get a sense of you know, writing and Storytelling there once is an interview with an expert that elaborates on the theme that I set forth on Monday. And then Friday is a mindfulness practice. That's kind of the healing, wrap it all up together for the week that we've, you know, finish up for whatever we whatever conversation we started on Monday. So that's another really great way to kind of just see storytelling in a different kind of way, and content creation in a different kind of way.

Yong Pratt 40:22
Amazing, I will definitely put all of those in the show notes. But I just want to say thank you so much, Judy, I've had such a fun time reconnecting with you catching up about where life has taken us in so many different directions over the past couple of years. And just want to thank you for showing up authentically, and being an example for how other people can show up in their businesses by being who they truly are, by living into their human design, if they know that, and just really using the creations they put out into the world really be that Guiding Light and beacon for other people to find them. So thank you so much.

Judy Tsuei 40:56
I love it. Thank you.

Yong Pratt 40:59
Oh my goodness. Did you love today's interview with Judy as much as I did. She is someone that could literally talk to you for hours and hours and hours on end, because there's just no end to the direction we can take our conversation. So I want to hear from you. What were your biggest takeaways? And Aha, from this episode? What action items are you going to put into practice today with this week to move your messaging forward to create deeper connections with your audience to take your content to another level? come and share your insights with me inside my Facebook community, the Arena of Awesome. Until we connect in there, my friends, go out there today and Amplify Your Awesome™.

Yong Pratt 41:44
Thanks for tuning in to the Amplify Your Awesome™ podcast. Let's continue this conversation inside my Facebook community the arena of awesome while it's still free and open to new members, come share your biggest takeaways and Aha. Plus, every week inside the arena, you'll get access to me and I may even share content I don't share anywhere else. Until next time, my friend, go out there today and Amplify Your Awesome™!

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The Oxygen Mask Effect

The Oxygen Mask Effect

[0:00] Attention passengers! Should the cabin lose pressure at any time during today’s flight, oxygen masks will drop down from the overhead panel. Please place the mask on your mouth and nose before assisting others. No matter how many times we hear this advice, many of us simply ignore it. We opt instead to care for those around us and prioritize them over ourselves. Our guest today is going to show us how to put the oxygen mask effect into action. 

[1:18] About today’s guest, Alison Swerdloff

[2:10] Tara’s life before The Oxygen Mask Effect

[7:43] On being a recovering people-pleaser.

“The oxygen mask effect is saying: self-care is not selfish. You cannot serve somebody from an empty cup.” – Alison Swerdloff

[11:06] How Alison defines self-care

“Self-care is finding what excites you, finding what energizes you.” – Alison Swerdloff

[12:13] Why scheduling self-care is so important  

[12:56] Building the habits of self-care into your life.

[13:36] “Self-care is not selfish. It’s saying yes to yourself.” – Alison Swerdloff

[15:21] Alison’s favorite way to create content and share the Oxygen Mask Effect with others. 

[19:59] Using our voices to share with others 

[22:15] How Alison monetizes her business

[26:38] Connect with Alison

Email: [email protected]

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alisonswerdloff/

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How To Rediscover Your Body

How To Rediscover Your Body

[0:00] Have you ever been asked or told to dim your light? Be less you? Be someone else because maybe somebody in our life didn’t understand or appreciate who we are or what we did? Well, today’s guest Tara Galeano, has some experience with that and she’s going to shed some light on how when we reclaim and rediscover who we are through our bodies, those thoughts and requests will be a thing of the past. 

[1:12] About today’s guest, Tara Galeano, and how we connected 

[1:38] Tara’s life before entrepreneurship and how she got to where she is today. 

[3:13] Where Tara got the idea of time and learned to value it. 

[4:48] Reclaiming and rediscovering our own power so we can express it through our businesses 

“The biggest block for so many women is that we reference other people as our source of  power.” – Tara Galeano

“There’s so much inherent power within the body, that it’s a wonderful vehicle and reference point for us that we don’t have to think about how to do things the body just knows.” – Tara Galeano

When we allow the wisdom of the body to come through that our lives become so much more on point. They become so much more effortless, and that there is so much more flow in the process.” – Tara Galleano

[6:47] Steps we can take to tune back into our bodies and then help to amplify that out into the world.

[7:15]  An interactive experience for you and Yong’s observations from it.

[8:45]  How often do we do this simple practice of letting ourselves feel and just letting go because it is extraordinarily hard?

[10:42] Overcoming resistance, especially in content creation.

[12:04] How to tap back into our breath when learning to trust ourselves 

[15:36] How to translate that feeling of being in nature into when we sit behind our computer and we want to share something with our audience and create content. 

[17:36] Tara’s favorite way to create content and the intentions behind her creations

[23:43]  On cycles and sexuality

[24:46]  “The more that we’re able to claim our desire, to claim our pleasure for ourselves, we claim this vibrancy, and that we’re able to access it in a way that’s deep and profound and effortless, that then shines forth in all of the other aspects of our work.” – Tara Galleano 

[27:10] Connect with Tara

www.rediscovermybody.com [website]

Rediscovering My Body [book]

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Yong Pratt 0:00
Have you ever been asked or told to dim your light? Be less you? Be someone else because maybe somebody in our life didn't understand or appreciate who we are or what we did? Well, today's guest Tara Galleano, has some experience with that and she's going to shed some light on how when we reclaim and rediscover who we are through our bodies, those thoughts and requests will be a thing of the past.

Yong Pratt 0:30
Have you ever felt like there was something missing in your business, something holding you back from the success you're seeking? If so, you are not alone, for nearly 20 years, and that's exactly how I felt as a business owner. It wasn't until I discovered Human Design, that it all became clear. And it turns out that I was the missing piece in my own business. Join me on this journey of discovering the real me and hear stories from other business owners, building businesses around all of their awesomeness. I'm Yong Pratt, and it's time my friend to Amplify Your Awesome™!

Yong Pratt 1:12
Hey there, Amplifiers! Welcome back to the show. Today's guest is Tara Galliano. She's an author, retreat host, speaker and sex therapist that learned to reconnect with her body after leaving a 25 year marriage, and now helps other women do the same. Tara, I am so glad that Rebecca connected us. Welcome to the show.

Tara Galleano 1:34
Thank you so much, Yong. It's a pleasure to be here with you.

Yong Pratt 1:38
So I would love to go back kind of to before you became an entrepreneur, what did life look like? Where did you think you were going to end up? And how did you get here?

Tara Galleano 1:48
Oh, that's funny, because I've always been an entrepreneur.

Yong Pratt 1:52
I love that!

Tara Galleano 1:54
I left school and started my private practice. And I was on I think I held Oh, I was counting a probably about five years of my job, like kind of my semi adult life where I worked for someone else. So I was never, it was always the square peg trying to fit around, never felt like a fit for me, because my time is so valuable. And I needed the flexibility in my life to do the things that were most important to me. There was a short stint where I worked at the University of Colorado. And I worked there part time while i was growing my private practice. And I just needed to leave at some point it was three years in and I just felt like this is not serving my highest good and my time is so valuable. And I learned a lot and so thankful for that experience, but wasn't giving me the juice that I needed to have to get I am today.

Yong Pratt 2:46
And I love that you're talking about time because understanding that your time is more valuable than what other people may presume it to be. I think that's it kind of runs rampant in our culture about you have to give time to this and you give time to this. But nowhere is a talked about giving time to ourselves or taking the time for ourselves. So where do you think that idea or your idea of time and learning to value your time came from?

Tara Galleano 3:13
You know, it was a hard journey. I mean, I was married for 25 years. And that is a lot of time. And what I know particularly from being a therapist and caring for people and being a parent, and really even being a wife was that I give my time and my attention to others to help to love to create. And that that is the most valuable thing I could give to anybody. And what I learned in the process was that I was not giving that to myself in the way that I needed it to do all the things that I was doing for all of these other people that I was in relationship with. And that's when the kind of a light switch and I thought, oh my goodness, I need to shift this.

Yong Pratt 3:59
Yeah. Yeah. And it's one of those subtle shifts to that when we come to the realization or had that lightbulb moment, like you showed that a lot of things can shift and change very, very quickly. So I want to shift into this topic of rediscovering ourselves because I know that in business, like you, I spent a long time trying to fit myself, you know, the the square peg in the round hole or vice versa. I ran a business for a long time, I worked for other people for a very short time. So I quickly learned that I was a really bad employee and I didn't like to follow the rules that they were setting out for me. It was tricky to follow even my own rules that I set in my business. But let's talk about how to rediscover or really reclaim this power. This is energy we have within our bodies that can then be expressed out into the world through our businesses.

Tara Galleano 4:48
Yeah, because I think it's so powerful and I'm really wanting to refine that process for women. Because it's it amplifies right. It amplifies so much in our business and in our Our lives. And what I found was probably the biggest block for so many women is that we reference other people as our source or as as our power. And so because we're this paradigm of performance, if you will, that we need to perform or take care of others, that we forget about ourselves. And then when we're actually able to switch that, and the body, I mean, the body is this great reference point. It's so much vaster than the mind, and the female body can create life. And we can create so much, there's so much inherent power within the body, that it's a wonderful vehicle and reference point for us that we don't have to think about, okay, how do I do all these things the body just knows. And when we allow the wisdom to come through, and accept that is true, that our lives become so much more on point, they become so much more effortless, and that there is so much more flow in the process. And it really is this allowing or the surrender to the body. And that's I think that's really scary.

Yong Pratt 6:03
It is that I was just thinking about that too, about how our culture and our society when it comes to especially the female body, there's this kind of taboo subject, we don't talk about it. We don't talk about things like cycles, and we don't talk about sexuality, we don't talk about these things are kind of just swept under the rug. So for all of my listeners out there, how would you recommend kind of starting this process, because we kind of have to peel back a lot of layers, a lot of learned behavior in order to get to this beautiful place you've just described, where there's this massive wisdom in our body, what is kind of the first a couple of steps that we can take to start to start to tune back in and then help to amplify that out into the world.

Tara Galleano 6:47
I love that because that's so important. Oftentimes, what I find is that there's an illness or health crisis, or some disease or discomfort in the body that women experience. And then all of a sudden, their attention is called there and they're like, okay, now I need to come back into my body. And yes, you do. Yeah, that is the wake up call. Yes. Thank you for heating that. And what happens when we don't have to answer that call, because we're already doing preventative care is so much more powerful.

Tara Galleano 7:15
So if we just take this moment to tap into the inhalation, like where it lands in the body, and you really feel that where the escalation begins, and really feel that. And it's not about dictating or managing the wrath, it's really just about feeling that.

Tara Galleano 7:43
So invite you to try that again, notice where the inhalation lands, there's no right or wrong there just as information on where the isolation begins. Yong, what did you notice that you brought your attention to your breath,

Yong Pratt 8:15
I noticed that I was trying to control the outcome, which is fascinating, because I think as women, we that's what we that's our natural tendency to control things or try to control things. So as you're talking, and the more breaths I took, I could relax into that. But the question I'm thinking is, how often do we do this simple practice of letting ourselves feel, and just letting go, because I know for me, that is extraordinarily hard.

Tara Galleano 8:45
It is, I'd say that is probably the one of the most difficult things that we can do in our lives. And that it takes a lot of courage. And I'm glad that you participated in this with me in this moment, because it's just a tape. And my sense is that the more that we can embrace the simple things in our life, the easier things become. And it is the simple thing that we can actually do that feels sustainable. It's not that I need to change everything, and, you know, address every little detail because then that activates that control and the desire to manipulate or manage. And that's antithetical to this experience that really the experience is to allow and to feel into the moment. And the more that we can do that the more we can tap into the flow, and then we could really produce the results that we want because it will be so effortless because it will be so tapped into the frequency that we bring to this world that that is unique and unlike any other and that that is our gift and mine looks different from yours. And yours is different from everybody else's is such beautiful variety and that is the wonderful piece too, because then it allows less control of like we're all going to look so different. We all are so different.

Yong Pratt 9:58
And that's such a good topic. About too about being different, because I know that growing up, I wanted to be the opposite of different, I wanted to fit in and look like everybody else. And as you know, a red haired, green eyed freckle faced Asian living in a predominantly white community, it was really hard to fit in. But I tried, you know, as hard as I could to do that. And as you were talking, I was visualizing the beauty that could really come out if we just allow, and in your work, do you ever experience clients that have resistance to this idea of simple because I know that when I talk about simple in relation to content, there's a lot of resistance that comes up like Wait, what do you mean, it can be simple? Have you experienced that in your work?

Tara Galleano 10:42
Yeah, yeah. I love that. Because I feel like simple yes, there's resistance. And also, then people want to make sure that it's safe, because they want to know, if I relax into the simple Am I am i is tested, if it's going to give me the results that I want. Because then if it is, you know, more intimacy, more joy, more juiciness, more flow in my business more, you know, sales, then I'll buy it. But if it's not, and it's just simple, well, I can do simple and not get the results. So I think it is again, this process of trusting to Yeah, do you trust yourself? And do you trust the person that is guiding you? Because if you do, and that's, yeah, that's what you need to do.

Tara Galleano 11:25
And the resistance? Absolutely, I mean, I've been a therapist for over 40 years is a resistance that's such a part of our human condition and the armoring that we put on, and the way we want to persevere and the way that we do things, and to introduce something new, especially as adults, it's like, that's gonna blow my mind I world. And I'm like, and is it really going to be simple read because it blows my mind and rocks my world. And I really have to adapt. And what can I grasp on to well, the simple things because then I know where the inhalation lands on my body, and I know where the exhalation begins. And that's a true thing. And that's true.

Yong Pratt 12:04
And that's such a beautiful concept too. And, and just kind of kind of an analogy of life to like, it really can be simple if we make it or we let it to be simple. If we let go of our preconceived notions, if we let go of how things, quote unquote, should be, because there's a lot of shooting in life. And it runs rampant. And I know that I've had to really retrain myself on not using that word, because it's not really a state, it's just it just, I would say almost an excuse, right? We should do this, like, well, who said we should do that? And, and what is the source? Because you said it, we're just a moment ago, and the word was trust. And I feel like, it's taken me a long time in life, you know, decades to get to the place where I have a new relationship with trusting myself, because for so long, I let my trust in others guide my decisions guide what I said or what I didn't say, and that really is something new that I'm experimenting with. So do you have a Do you have something we can work on to really tap back into? So we have, we can tap back into our breath? We have that simplicity there, when it comes to up leveling, and then learning to trust ourselves, especially if we haven't done it for a long time. Are there practices that you could share to help us do that?

Tara Galleano 13:26
I mean, yes, there's so many, because I like you referenced before I was married for 25 years. And yeah, one of the things my former husband wanted me to say was, don't tell people that you're a sex therapist, tell people that you're a clinician, and that's okay. But sex there because a little bit messy and like, okay, so yeah, so really needing to be smaller, and then really coming back to, can I trust myself? Or can I trust him? And what is he saying, is that true? Are people really going to perceive me that way? Or what is true? And so what I found was that oftentimes, my bullshit detector was offline in my relationship. And so coming back and rediscover my body was coming back into my body and understanding what was true for me. And it's been a process. And I know that there are guides and there's coaches, and there's teachers that provide pathways for us, that help enable us get to where we want to go because we see the light at the end of the tunnel, and they're reaching out of hand and inviting us forward. And that we need what I would say these coherent fields that support us, and that if we don't have a teacher or a guide, it's as simple for me and I would say for a lot of people is to be in nature, as a nature provides such coherence.

Tara Galleano 14:36
And that we know oftentimes that there's such bliss and such awareness and such ease when we're in nature. And the more that we can reference that and really template that within our body, the more that we can begin to know this is truth and whatever, you know frenetic and just corded energy we're getting from our cell phones or we're getting from our computer. That is not true. truths. And you can feel the contrast. And you can try this experiment with yourself and say, I'm going to go out in nature and go for a walk and go be with a tree, maybe put your back up against the tree, and feel that for a few moments. And then go be in your cell phone and be with your computer and listen to the radio, or, you know, I mean, how all that stimulation going on and see where you land. And do you know where your breath in your inhale lands and where your exhale begins in that moment. And it may be more difficult, you may know. But my sense is it will be tremendously more difficult. And so you have the contrast. And then you can reach for more of what it is that you want.

Yong Pratt 15:36
Hmm. And the idea of being out in nature is one that I love. And now that it's warmer in the mornings, I love going on the back porch, listening to the birds, we have these beautiful yellow birds, like I've never seen them before, but they're vibrant yellow, and they come land on the hummingbird feeder, the hummingbirds come in and there's just birds everywhere. And just the sun filtering through is enough to help me center myself and get back to that feeling. And I don't I wouldn't say that I'm a meditator by any means. But it almost is sort of that, that meditation that kind of washes over you where you don't have to think about it. It is easy, it is blissful. It is joyful, just to sit in that. So I love that. The question then is, how do we translate that feeling of being in nature into when we sit behind our computer, and we want to share something with our audience and create content? How do we transfer that feeling or those emotions into our work?

Tara Galleano 16:34
I love that, because that is the biggest gift that we can get from nature, it's because nature is doing its own thing. And it's perfect in and of itself. And we can't just be trees standing outside forever here. They've got such amazing intelligence, we just can't replicate that. But what we can do is we can learn. And so what I do is I and I have my book right here, I have my very beautiful book that I write in and write without the connection to the computer and get the download of what is true for me in this moment. Because I've been out in nature, I've taken my walk in the morning, I'm connecting to myself, I'm really feeling like I'm just referencing myself and coming way within me. And so then the expression is so much easier, I write it down in my book before I get plugged in at all. And then because I've had the time and the opportunity to take, give myself a download, and really just express it all, I can dive into my work and begin to create the things that I am meant to create this day.

Yong Pratt 17:36
Oh, that's beautiful. Yeah, getting away from all of the devices, unplugging. checking in with yourself, like you said, getting that download. And that's such a good word. Because people understand what a download on a computer is, and how quickly or how slowly that sometimes happens. And our brains are kind of the same. Some days, the downloads a little faster. Some days, it takes a long time for anything to come out on the other side of that pin. I know for myself, that's definitely true. So would you consider yourself then a writer first and foremost, when it comes to content creation?

Tara Galleano 18:08
I do more and more, you know, I've always felt like I was a writer my whole entire life, I loved writing. And then when I was in my 20s, I gave birth to my two beautiful children who are now adults love them. And something about that my creative energy shifted. And I didn't write like I used to write. And so my creative force was going into raising my kids. And now that my kids are adults, I am writing so much more. And it's you know, it's been a profound gift and recognizing the timing, because that's where I think this should comes in, at least for me. And where I see it with other women. It's like, I should be doing this. I identify as a writer. And so there's this should. And yet the timing just wasn't right. I didn't have resources, I didn't have the excess flow, to go to writing because I was so involved with raising my kids. And the reality is, there's nothing wrong with that, because they're amazing human beings. And I'm so glad!

Yong Pratt 19:08
Isn't it interesting that we we, we should all over ourselves when it comes to this. But we know that in life, there are seasons, there are dormancy seasons, there are growth seasons, yet we don't allow ourselves to also have those same seasons. So when we're growing our kids and we we prepare them to go out into the world. Just because we're not doing certain things we used to do doesn't mean they're not still part of us. We just need to rediscover like you said through our bodies, through through our senses through being out nature, how to make that work again.

Yong Pratt 19:39
So I really appreciate that you share that because it was a practice you had and then you didn't have it for a while. And I know for me in particular and a lot of women, we beat ourselves up so much about the things that we used to be able to do or that we used to enjoy and we no longer do. So the fact that you're now coming back to it, it's kind of come full circle I love that because that's exactly what happens in business. And in life too, right? Everything is in a cycle. It is not linear. It's very sporadic, and lots of ups and downs and twists and turns. And I think being able to use our breath, like you shared and being out in nature, and just understanding that it's okay not to do certain things at certain times, and maybe try new things, because that's been my experience to that.

Yong Pratt 20:26
For a while writing was it every day is a little bit different. Some days, you know, being here on video probably is my absolute favorite way to connect and create because I get to really co create, whether it's with a guest or kind of with the universe as as my companion to help me do all these things. So I just love that there are so many different ways for everyone listening to not only build a business, but to create the things that they love, create the things that they let that light them up, and then really create things that support who they are and how they serve others. So I am curious to know, when you're creating your writing, when you're sitting down, you're journaling? How do you then translate that into something you put out onto the internet, whether it's on social media or through your book? What does that process look like for you?

Tara Galleano 21:15
Oftentimes, I have an idea. And then I'd like to explore. And so I do a lot of Facebook Lives, I do a lot of Instagram lives. And currently I'm doing an Instagram series called living in ceremony, because that has been my desire for a while before that it was dating at 50, which was fun, but limited, because I don't wish to date at this point. But living in ceremony really speaks to me. And so I have the idea of Oh, how do I want to show up for my audience today. And so there is some connection to the relationship. And then feeling into that and feeling into the layers of there's absolutely things that are private that nobody knows. But there's also the personal piece, and there's a liminal field where I want to connect with people and I want to draw them in. And I also want to be able to relate to them where they're at. So knowing those different layers of nuanced layers really helps me and then I start to write from within just setting that intention of I'm going to express what is most important for my audience today. And so I might just write that as an intention, and then see whatever comes forth. And again, then filtering it through, this is private, this is personal, I can share. And this is what my audience probably wants to hear most. And so really working with those layers, and then bringing it forth, but knowing that the expression of it is also valuable, because I need to write what's what's important for me in my private life, as well as my personal as well as for my audience. So just knowing that it's all divinely guided,

Yong Pratt 22:46
Oh, such a such a great visual of you of you doing this, as you're explaining it again, you have such a great way with words that I can sort of see it happening, you know, as as you're describing it. So that's so beautiful. And your audience is so fortunate to be able to, to be connected with you in this way. Because a lot of what you're talking about is is again, going back to the word taboo is our subjects that are not necessarily something we grew up hearing about. So holding space for them, allowing them to, to rediscover all sorts of different things about themselves in many different aspects. I imagine that's, you know, what a gift you're providing to so many women out there, who, who, for the first time in their lives, maybe are tapping into this part of themselves that they've ignored for a long time. And now they get to experience it and express it through your work. So, so thank you for showing up and sharing all that with your audience. Because, wow, just what a tremendous gift that is.

Tara Galleano 23:43
Oh, awesome, thank you again, and it made me think also of the cycles. And so, you know, especially around sexuality, it's oftentimes, we may blame ourselves as women like I should be more sexual, or I'm ignoring this part of my life. And that may be true, but what I also know is that their cycles, their cycles, where Yeah, where there is more dormancy, or there is more vibrancy, or there is more juiciness or there is more play. And that that is part of the process. Because I also know that in this culture, especially in media, women and female bodies are hyper sexualized. And then also, there's this reticence of we don't have the words to speak what is our pleasure? Or what is our desire? Or what is true for us? Because we were never taught how to do that. We just know we're not that hyper sexualized division, and how do we live our lives in between from where we are to where that is. And it's so difficult. And so I really honor that, that we oftentimes we just don't know what our pleasure is.

Tara Galleano 24:46
But what I do know is the more that we're able to claim our desire to claim our pleasure for ourselves, and not necessarily because our partner wants it or because anybody else wants it, but we want it just for ourselves. That we claim this vibrancy, and that we're able to access it in a way that's deep and profound and effortless, that then shines forth in all of the other aspects of our work as like sexual potency, sexual creativity, sexual pleasure, naturally overflows into the other areas of our lives, when we allow it when it is true for us when it's not that hyper sexualized image, we live there, which is fine, too. But I say most of us, we don't. And we just live where we live here. And it's very beautiful, and gentle, and sweet, and lovely and juicy and orgasmic. And you know, it's all of these things. And that is just what it is for us. And that we need to honor that. So coming back to that unique expression that we all have, and how when we tap into that, it effortlessly impacts all of the other areas of our life. Just like when we're constricted, it impacts all other areas of our life. Like, oh, I had this problem here. And now all of a sudden, it's showing up in my work. And now it's showing up in my family. Of course it is the thing.

Yong Pratt 26:04
And it's interesting, too, because there's this idea that we can compartmentalize our lives, right. And I tried to do that for a long time. So I love that you're saying no. If it's happening here, it's going to show up over here. So let's just deal with it. Let's, let's address it, let's explore it, let's do some experimentation. So we can get to the point where we can show up in our most awesome selves and really go out there and and really just use our energy then to amplify all the good work. I know everyone on the listening to right now, everyone's out there doing amazing work. And what if we by just rediscovering our bodies, rediscovering who we are rediscovering our intuition and trust in ourselves that can manifest its way into every nook and cranny in our lives. And it's gonna make our businesses and so much better. Oh, my gosh, Tara, I have loved this conversation so much. I want to make sure that my listeners know where to get your book and where to connect with you To learn more, because there's so many facets of this particular topic. And I want to make sure I'm a resource for them to find you.

Tara Galleano 27:10
Wonderful. So the best way to find me is on my website, www.rediscovermybody.com. And I would love to share my work, I have this book rediscovering my body, and that's available on Amazon.

Yong Pratt 27:21
So I have to go get the book today, I'll go put it in my cart and start diving in. Because I just think, Wow, giving ourselves permission just to be ourselves and rediscovering who we are, what a beautiful way to to then show up in the world as our authentic selves. And it's the very reason this podcast exists so we can amplify our awesome. So Tara has given us some great tools. Today, she's written a beautiful book that we we all need to go get now. So we can show up as more of our authentic selves. Tara, thank you so much for saying yes to this interview, it's been a blast. And I know we're going to be connected in the future at some level. And I'm going to just enjoy every minute of that.

Tara Galleano 28:01
I love it. Thank you so much, Yong. And I just want to say that the I love the book, and I'm really happy that you're gonna go get it because it's a guide book. It's not, you know, a book where somebody is telling you, it's not an expert telling you something, it's really this wonderful, beautiful illustrated version of you get to document you. And so you really get to create all of the information that you need to know your pleasure to know your pain, and to know so much more about your body. And I'm so excited to be bringing this forth. I'm so excited you're gonna get a copy.

Yong Pratt 28:34
Yeah, I can't Yeah, I can't wait to dive in. When I when I get it. And when I go through it, I'll reach out to you and, and, and, and share with you if you would like that sort of my process because yeah, I love sharing with others, you know, when I get their books when I take their courses, just reporting back because I know as a course creator, myself and as a coach, it's so nice to not that I have to be affirmed. But it's so nice to be able to receive that back after putting so much out into the universe. So I'm looking forward to it. Thank you so much for being here today.

Tara Galleano 29:08
Thanks so much.

Yong Pratt 29:10
Wow, what an amazing conversation that was to talk with Tara today. You know, I had a whole list of questions written out that I wanted to ask. However, as is usually the case, I'll write out some questions just to kind of gather my thoughts. And then we'll totally go off script, which I really, really adore, letting sort of a universe letting the energy of our conversation guide us. And that's really what what I love most about bringing guests onto the show about being in the energy of someone else, co creating with them like I shared on today's interview, and really this topic about rediscovering ourselves by rediscovering our body. Wow, what a profound topic. I invite you to come on over to my Facebook group, the Arena of Awesome. Share your biggest takeaways share your biggest ahas and hey If you also get the book on Amazon, wouldn't it be cool if we did some sort of book club or we had some chats about that? I would love that I would love the accountability of going through a book and rediscovering and having other people in that process with me, come on over to the arena. Tell me also if you're interested in that, because I think that would be a really fun way to honor Tara's work, and to honor her for being a guest and to demonstrate to her that her work is so valuable, so needed and so important. Okay, my friends, I will see you inside the Arena. Until then, go out there today and Amplify Your Awesome™! Cheers.

Yong Pratt 30:38
Thanks for tuning in, do the Amplify Your Awesome™! podcast. Let's continue this conversation inside my Facebook community beat arena of awesome while it's still free and open to new members, come share your biggest takeaways and Ahas. Plus, every week inside the arena, you'll get access to me and I may even share content I don't share anywhere else. Until next time, my friend, go out there today and Amplify Your Awesome™!

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